How Do I Help My Child With Anxiety?

Neuroscience research suggests that anxiety is a complex emotion that involves various brain regions and neural pathways. The amygdala, a small almond-shaped structure in the brain, is one of the key regions involved in processing emotions such as fear and anxiety....

What is possible when we feel truly safe?

One of the foundational aspects of personal development and the one idea that I always talk to people about is SELF CARE. The most common response I hear when I ask people to write a list of things they can do to support themselves, look after themselves, love...

Strengthen Ourselves, Strengthen Our Children

Every child comes from a family. Every family goes through hardships and struggles, some more than others. There is a way to strengthen our children! The notion that one can leave the family behind, let them go and be free is both seductive and misleading.  ...

Those Who Come First, Come First.

          Those Who Come First, Come First The Natural Order In Families Often, within families, children may take on the role of looking after the parent. Not necessarily in a physical way, although this can happen, more in an emotional way....

Parental f@ck ups & teenage challenges

My heart is broken and exposed and my eyes continue to leak without warning it seems. I have a lot of knowledge about being a parent, about what children need, about how to best support them. Yet this past fortnight has found me clueless, hopeless, helpless and...

Why Belonging Is Vital

Belonging is a basic human need and a requirement for our survival.  Imagine the Palaeolithic age (think hairy cavemen and women) and the basic necessity of belonging for survival.  Exclusion or separation of an individual from the “tribe” meant death, therefore...

Not All Sexual Abuse Hurts…

Not all sexual abuse hurts, confusing yes, damaging yes but sometimes it doesn’t hurt. Sometimes it feels good because our bodies are meant to feel good when our vulvas, vaginas, breasts, nipples, penises or testicles are touched.  Our bodies have an inbuilt...

Belonging: How It Motivates Children’s Behaviour

My previous article (click here to read) discusses why belonging is vital for kids (and for all of us) – It’s about survival. Exclusion means death.  Much of the behaviour of children (and adults for that matter) within the family, the classroom, counselling or other...